Steps towards Recovery from Grief and Loss
After we lose our loved ones, it is not an easy thing to forget about them. We can take a different course that will help us cope with future with their absence. Life will not be the same though but we have to find a way to survive and get the burden of grief off our shoulders.
There are some stages of grief which can help us go through mourning and bereavement as we tend to live life without our loved ones.
It is necessary to understand rationally the kind of loss we have suffered. This will prevent great shocks and will be able to mourn and grief in normal periods. It will be of help to know how and why death occurred. This will help the process of mourning by shifting our focus back from the time the problems started not necessarily the hour of death.
We should also learn how to come into terms with the loss emotionally. We need to involve our hearts in the acceptance process so that no part of the body is left behind to cause a drag to the past. If we learn to confront every situation including death, then it will help us go through mourning process. This will also help us to get away from pain and remain with the happy memories we shared together.
We should rediscover selves as different people. When a person is gone, we can no longer identify ourselves with them especially where he was not known to people. This is what we mean by rediscovering ourselves.
You will need to discover that side of you that you never used to know before you lost your loved one. You can find out that there are things you can do for yourself which before you thought you could not. This will be part of the grieving for your loss and overcoming grief.
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Getting the Most out of Therapy and Counseling
Therapy has been known to be an effective answer and treatment for emotional and mental problems. However, to reap its full benefits, it is important to choose and engage the right therapist, one you can trust and who makes you feel that he or she care for your relationship and of course has the required experience and expertise to help you make those necessary changes in your life. A good therapist will help you become stronger, more self-aware and therefore able to contribute more to that relationship. However, the therapists alone will not be able do the work, you must be a very active participant individually or as a couple.
It is a fact that talking with a supportive person about your feelings and thoughts makes you feel much better. In itself and even of itself, it is known to be very healing to voice and tell somebody about your worries or just talk about what is weighing and bothering you individually or as a couple. Knowing that somebody is listening or cares and wants to assist feels good.
Though it may be helpful to talk to family members and close friends, sometimes, you may require help which those immediately surrounding us may not be able to give. When that extra support or perspective from the outside; that expert guidance is needed talking or meeting a counselor or therapist may be the help to need. True, family and friends are important, but therapy is altogether different. Relationship therapists are professionally-trained to listen and help you get problem root, overcome those emotional challenges, and ultimately make those positive changes that are needed.
Granted, therapy can be very challenging, time consuming and uncomfortable because thoughts and emotions that often arise are part of that healing and treatment process. Relationship therapy however will provide benefits that are long-lasting and which go beyond mere symptom relief. It gives you and your partner tools for changing and transforming your lives and coping with whatever life throws at you.
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